Welcome back to Jaggy's Corner where I talk about various topics in
the gaming industry. Today, however, Jaggy's Corner is going to be
much more serious as it covers a heavy topic. As a result, before I
move on I'm blatantly telling you that this post is a TRIGGER
WARNING. I cover sexual harassment and surrounding topics.
I have linked to a couple of peoples' accounts with individuals
within the gaming community. Each of these also carry trigger
warnings. I'll do my best to reduce specifics that might needlessly
hurt our readers, but I'm not going to pull punches.
Sexual
Harassment Allegations - Where It Began and the Conversation
On the weekend, one woman posted a Tweet about sexual harassment
experienced by a well known Destiny 2 player "SayNoToRage".
As the weekend progressed, a lot of allegations were made through
many Twitlonger posts. To date, both men and women have come forward
with stories of sexual harassment, rape, or coercion (like BDSM for
example).
During the course of the weekend many well-known streamers, partners,
and YouTubers were called out. A Twitter user JessyQuil
began compiling a list
of all those accused, the accuser(s), and the link to the allegation.
Unfortunately, this list is quite long and shocking to several people
in the gaming community.
Among the list of accused persons are: Ryan Morrison (The Video Game
Attorney), Cryaotic (YouTube/Streamer), WitWix (streamer), Sjin
(Formerly of the Yogscast), HJTenchi (streamer), wgrates (streamer),
Kasper (Charity Streamer), ProSyndicate (Streamer), and Hassan
(Twitch Staff). This list is not exhaustive as there are many other
cases of sexual harassment.
What's
Happened Since?
After days of reading horrible detailed accounts of several sponsors
of these gamers have rescinded their deals. A well-known group the
Online
Performers Group (OPG) lost a lot of its key members,
a group that consisted of many high profile streamers and YouTubers,
which forced them into an interesting situation. Another group ceased
operations as a result of the allegations. Finally, Twitch updated
its policies in an official
blog post and began investigating the allegations
leading to the Banning of several streamers like iAMSp00n,
WarwitchTV, and BlessRNG (So far...).
But
Wait! There's More!
Another allegation was written about a Twitch
Staff member who is Accounts Director and in charge of
Strategic Partnerships. While this particular accusation has not been
dealt with (that we know of), it shows that the gaming community
needs to be more accountable. We should not be silent anymore.
Ubisoft
posted a response after several allegations involve
multiple staff members.
I can only hope that things will improve from here but I have my
doubts. Companies tend to follow the money and not care about
anything else, but what do I know? In order to survive in the world,
money leads the charge. And many of these allegations can be
difficult to prove because we all know how the court system handles
things... For those that don't know, someone compiled a
list of statements made by judges in the American
legal system. Go on. Read some of those awful and ridiculous
statements. Then tell me why you think most people don't step forward
with allegations of sexual offenses.
The nuclear fallout from these accounts doesn't just extend to those
that have sexually assaulted members of the gaming community. I've
read several allegations of non-sexual harassment among the other
allegations. In fact, I can even tell you some stories...
Harassment doesn't just come from men to women, it comes from all
persons of all walks of life. It also doesn't just extend to the
gaming industry.
A
Personal Story
When I was younger, I became friends with a couple of business
owners. For the most part, these people were amazing and wonderful
people. Anyways, I was invited out to lunch by a business owner to
talk. I believe this was around the time I was in finance, so I hoped
he would become a client. We went to a place not far from work to his
friends' restaurant. It wasn't open to the public on that day and
everything seemed fine.
While we waited for the chef to make our meals, the restaurant owner
asked me to follow him so that he could show me something. I
followed, not really thinking anything of it, but I was rather
hesitant. He took me to a back room and proceeded to grab my breast.
I backed away and told him that this wasn't acceptable. He said
something along the lines of 'Oh sorry, you're not married so I just
assumed it was okay'. Let that sink in. BECAUSE I WASN'T MARRIED IT
WAS ACCEPTABLE TO HIM. Why? Apparently, this is how things are done
back home.
That's just one instance that happened outside of gaming.
Another
Personal Story of Harassment
Inside gaming, I've been in multiple long distance relationships.
Many of them failed horribly. The one situation that always angers me
the most is my encounter with 'Zankorian' during my WoW days. (This
is going back many years by the way. Don't try to find this person
now. I highly doubt that he could be found.)
Zank and I were in a 'relationship' for several months. We were friends
and guildies prior to this, so he was 'good'. The two of us would
talk every day, we'd raid, we'd laugh, we'd play music, etc... I
stopped focusing on real life as I was so infatuated with the guy.
He was from Florida and he was Hispanic, a fact that worked for me
because I like the Spanish language and I would be able to practice
with him. Anyways, after being together for a few months he began
asking me to react sexually to him when we were on Skype. He also had
my actual phone number so sometimes this happened outside of Skype.
He would ask for nudes as well. I told him that I never do those
kinds of things and I wasn't comfortable with the idea. I refused.
(Keep in mind this happened after being sexually harassed multiple
times and raped.) With each conversation, he would persist and I
would continue to say no. I thank the stars I never met him in
person...
One day he stopped messaging. He wasn't on WoW. No one had heard from
him. He wasn't on Facebook (though I did find his other FB account
where he was fully active so I knew he was just avoiding me for some
reason.) I didn't know what happened. Did I piss him off? Was I wrong
to not give him anything? Was I the bad person?
After about a week of no interaction, one of his 'brothers' messaged
me and said, "Hi. Alvaro says that we needed to message you.
He's in the hospital. He's in a coma". Color me shocked. I was
confused and scared. What happened? Did he get into a car accident?
Was this an induced coma or not? I hadn't taken a lot of time between
my previous relationship and the new one with Zank. Was I about to
lose everything?
Another week went by. I learned several facts like:
He wasn't in a coma
Alvaro pretended to be his own brother
He was secretly in a relationship with someone else (a person who
I'm actually good friends with... This is actually a whole other
story on its own.)
His name was not Alvaro
Most of what he told me was a lie.
He was active on Facebook but under a different name
I can't imagine what would have happened if I ever went to Florida or
if I had sent him nudes. And while this specific situation only
extends to WoW, and not a YouTube idol or Streamer, sexual harassment
is VERY prevalent in the gaming space.
Final
Thoughts From this week
While I know that many women and men have come forward to tell their
stories, I have to say that I respect their bravery, especially those
who have been very detailed. It's never an easy thing to admit sexual
harassment or any kind of harassment, but now people can choose what
happens moving forward. Twitch has already banned a few offenders and
is investigating others. Gamers have banded together to protect each other
from the awful bad apples. Sponsors have dropped their deals with
certain individuals across the board.
Frankly, we need to talk more about harassment in gaming. We need to
believe more of those stories and not hide anymore. Do not let anyone
be responsible for your success or downfall. And most importantly,
don't blame yourselves for others being assholes. If I could offer a
piece of advice based on multiple experiences, it is this: if you
are feeling uncomfortable and have a way to escape, DO IT.
If it feels like a bad situation, get out. That is especially
true if you've been drinking.
I'm
always available to listen, no matter how significant that may be.
And now I'm ignoring Twitter for a week.
Until next time.
Susan N.